I’ve been thinking lately about 2 specific incidences in which I have said or done something that ultimately hurt someone I cared for and/or respected. No, I’m not going to spill the beans, so don’t ask. Anyway, both of these events ended with me apologizing. But there is still a nagging feeling with one of them. Do you ever just want to look someone in the eye and say something that will totally erase their memory of what you did? That’s how I feel. The person may not even remember what happened, afterall it’s been 15 years. Even though this person is in another country, I still feel like I need to make contact and ensure that there are no hard feelings lingering.
Think back on a time in your life when you have made a mistake that ended up causing someone else pain. Did you say you are sorry - and mean it? Have you repaired a damaged relationship? You probably have something on your mind right now. Why don’t you do something about it? Don’t send an e-mail or try to make things right over the phone. Meet that person face to face, if you can. Mend the wrong, make it right the best that you can. It could change your life - and theirs.
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ok, I have been thinking a lot about your post because I too feel like I hurt someone terribly and have always wanted to just say "I'm sorry" For me though, because it had been so many years, they had moved on, have a great life with a great family and are happy, my sorry would only sound like regret. I do not regret any decision I ever made, nor am I unhappy with my life or my decision. So, I have never followed through on the apology and because I came to grips with the thought that my decisions back then did not hold them back from being happy, it is not worth bringing up and mentioning or even dwelling on anymore.
Does that make ANY sense?
I have done plenty of stupid things in my life, said even more stupid things and made plenty of mistakes. For those, I have had to face them and ask for forgiveness knowing that I couldn't move on and be content knowing someone else was hurting or offended because of me. Life is learning. If someone is hurt by something you did MANY years ago, they need to move on and get a life.
I know I sound heartless but it is not your responsibility to make them move on. Its theirs.
Whew, I will get off my soap box now.
(I know you know who I am referring to since we have talked so much about this in the past and I think I know who you refer to too.) Don't lose sleep over it, or waste anymore time worrying. Their life is theirs, and not a result of you or anything you have done.
Love you Jen!
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